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Loss of Libido After Childbirth When I founded The Sense of Smell Lab, a global leader in developing innovative products for health and well being, one area of my research that is getting considerable attention is sexual health, especially low female libido.
Obviously being pregnant and bringing a child into the world is a demanding time in a woman’s life. Sexual problems after child birth are not uncommon. In fact, most women notice a decrease in their sexual drive during this time. Don’t be overly concerned.
My daughter-in-law and I were having a conversation the other day when she shyly admitted that her sex life had taken a nose dive – and not yet recovered – since she gave birth to her first child. “What’s wrong with me? Will I ever get my desire back?” she asked.
Of course! Being somewhat older – well, much older! – brings an understanding of a woman’s life cycle that only experience can fully provide. While it’s easy to shrug off her concerns as the result of pregnancy and the hormonal changes that come with it, to the person having these feelings, a loss of sexual desire may appear to be the end of what was a healthy, satisfying sex life.
Most women know that motherhood, especially after the first born, shifts the attention from oneself and our partner, to the newborn. Our focus goes to nurturing and protecting the new being we created through our sexual expression. We can only handle so much and often times other important things are left wanting.
There’s nothing wrong with this. Women go through various stages where sexual desire takes a back seat to other priorities. It’s important to understand these cycles and discuss them with your partner. Feeling under pressure to perform before you’re ready will only complicate the relationship with added stress.
Sometimes, it just takes a few words, “I’m exhausted! Can you just hold me so I relax?” Other times it may require you to re-assure your partner that he is still ‘the One.’ The work of parenting is a mutual concern.
And remember that babies grow and our former priorities do return. For the most part, a waning libido after pregnancy is just a temporary situation. It will return when we find the time – and energy – to bring it back.
Sexual desire is an emotion so you do have control over it. If the mood for sex is lacking after motherhood you can help and encourage it to come back by wanting it back. First time moms can be overly sensitive to the needs of the baby at the expense of both her partner and herself. You don’t need to do it all… accept the help in whatever way it comes. Billions of women have given birth and nurtured their babies successfully in spite of their apprehensions. So while it may seem overwhelming right now, life – and your sexual expression -- has a way of returning to normal. Nurture your baby and nurture yourself.
You can try this today –
A new mom that is low on sleep and barely has time to grab a shower may not feel very sexy. Today is a good time to ask him to give you a massage. His touch may stimulate feelings of desire – and if not, if you are just too tired – at least you felt his touch and received a relaxing massage. Focus on the intimacy and connection; the sex will come when the time is right.
Linda Ryan is the Founder of The SOS Lab, w world leader in developing innovative products that use the sense of smell for health and well being.
Download her FREE ebook, “30 Days to a Sexier You! A Self Help Guide for Low Female Libido” at: http://www.helpforlowlibido.com
